Thursday, 18 October 2012

Sit and tie that shoe lace

Sit and tie that shoe lace
 Imagine a child running with her friends who  falls over her shoe laces, quickly jumps up and starts running again without tying the lace. How far can this child go before tripping over the lace again? Until that shoe lace is tied that little person will keep falling with each fall making her dirty and draining a bit of her enthusiasm. We all have moments when we find ourselves knocked down, on our knees  haunted by self doubt, painful memories and past failures. Emotions and thoughts that dare us to just give up, stop dreaming big and just settle for the ordinary. A number  of greatness thoughts tell us to rise and run again but a recent incident had me wondering what if when we found ourselves in the basement we sit for a bit, tie our shoe laces then rise again.
A powerful strong woman I know was once asked how she made it through all the hard times she had been through and she said ‘’I have learnt I will find myself in the basement several times along the way. I have embraced it, learnt to sit and cry, heal, restructure then stand again. For I know when I do stand again, I will run with increased determination’’ On further reflections, I understood it to mean that when we fail or we just fall along the road let us analyse  what we did wrong, make peace with it and get back in the race. In some circumstances it’s easier because the problem just might be that we did not manage time well and missed a deadline, did not study enough and failed an exam or overspent on that pair of shoes and used rent money. These I believe we can usually quickly correct in the next exam sitting, next month’s deadline or next payday but in this one I want to deal with emotional shoe laces.
There are emotional issues in our lives that we think we can forget and walk away from but I have learnt it’s never that easy. Many experiences in our lives can leave us with feelings or emotions that just loosen something within us. Failure to achieve something within a set period could breed self doubt and possibly a fear of ever setting targets again. If we do not deal with what actually went wrong and remove this self doubt we may start fearing to pursue our greatness as we are slowly convinced we are not worthy.  If a child is always told they are useless, a failure and will never make it they may end up believing it. Unless one day they sit and rewire and realise that they were abused, discouraged and demotivated but within them lies a seed of greatness they may always  hold back from challenges and easily give up. Along the way we may be let down by people who did not provide, did not care or were just never there for us. This could create a sense of disappointment, make us question our worth and generally lose faith in others.  In a race where we need to know and believe our worth, trust others to run a certain part of the race with or for us such feelings could be costly shoe laces. I dare you to look realise that you are a strong person who still made it thus far regardless of failure and disappointment.
 The shoe lace does not get bigger every time we fall! It’s seemingly increasing hold over us comes from the pain and frustration that grows within us  when we are haunted by the same thing repeatedly. I don’t know what or who untied your shoe laces and made you fall but what I know is if you sit and tie those shoe laces when you rise my friend, you will be much stronger  in this race of greatness. What say you? Do we just shove the lace back into the shoe and hope we can cover a lot of distance before it comes loose again??? Or we sit and tie that shoe lace once and for all???

Taffy Bete


  1. wow food for thot hey, i thnk i will sit down and tie my laces securely before proceeding.
    Thats a fine piece of wisdom rite there

  2. usually seems like u'r to busy to sit down and reflect...but tying those laces will save u much more time...

  3. Now there is the other type of kid who does not give up and does not tie their laces. The ones who simply remove the shoes, get up and run again...they have a solution yes but to the wrong them its the shoes that are making them fall not the untied laces. Funny thing about life is that when u remove your 'shoes' that's when everything goes haywire due to the absence of whats supposed to be there. How often do we throw away something good because we failed to identify the problem and later realize its necessity . What was the reason for your last break up? Why dd u quit your last job? Was it not because your laces were not tied and you tripped and fell. Are you not regretting that decision now? Let us not live a life were we regret taking off our 'shoes' when untied laces were the problem. Before abandoning anything next time think deep and search for the real problem

    1. wow. You bring a whole new perspective to this Kudakwashe. I am just realising that there is the possibility though that at times we are possibly wearing the wrong shoe for the race course we are in. I would like to write a piece that explores the issue with special mention given you have started this train of thought

    2. as the stars do not struggle to shine i do wish that you progress without struggle in this path of motivation you have taken. possibilities are endless and i biliv you guys have the capabilities to explore them...good stuff

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    1. She sure is a gifted writer, thanks for passing by this blog, hope you find it worthy to come back again several times this year, as we strive to motivate you to live your true greatness that God created in you!!!



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